“What matters in life is not what happens to you but what you remember and how you remember it.” – Gabriel Garcia Marquez
Not so much understanding each other, but understanding ourselves; what makes us tick, what makes us knuckle under, what makes us soar, what makes us dream and scheme.
We all need to know.
But knowing, understanding deeply, is a quirky thing that shows up when it shows up – I don’t think we get that on demand, ever. Sometimes we need to wade into it, like a boxer flailing. Sometimes we need an escape hatch – to get away, to clear our minds.
Sometimes we need a few words, a gesture or a revelation – around some corner we are about to turn . . .
We cannot be salvaged unless we’ve gotten lost, cannot be lifted unless we’ve fallen, cannot be stopped if we aren’t in motion. Right track or wrong tack – we stick necks out, explore life, experience risks and rewards, failures and miss-steps. There is no wrong choice, only the next choice. And the next.
Do we find what we look for, and when we find what we want do we recognize it for what it is, or do we sit back and say – ahh, that’s what I wanted – and live happily ever after?
The single most important issue we all wrestle with is truth. Truth in all things, truth telling at all times. Truth in telling ourselves what we see, hear and feel.
“It is not true that people stop pursuing dreams because they grow old, they grow old because they stop pursuing dreams.” – Gabriel Garcia Marquez
column written/ published from Calgary
morning walk: -2C /29F, let the big melt begin! .. overcast, Gusta found some muck so perhaps the temperature reading is wrong – but I still found ice. Fresh. Invigorating.
I am once again back in the land of snow. It feels good to be back. I know I need to find again...get back what has been lost for me.....but what is it that I lost? Do I really understand that yet? See you are on some adventures again. Hope they are fruitful.....or at least fun, SC, Fredericton, NB
A wonderful remembrance of your dad’s 57th “birthday”. … Like you said today in your column, I’ve only found a pleasant companionship without the sizzle. Not sure whether I need to feel that on the first meeting or whether I should allow time for it to develop. Hard call. Meanwhile, the sun is shining and it’s 78 degrees in Palm Springs. Time to get outside…, CM, Calgary, AB