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JUDGMENT DAY

Wednesday Apr. 13, 2016

 

When difficulties show up – easy to recall old words we’ve heard: ‘what did you expect?’.

Being thrilled or disappointed is an emotional but not very practical use of energy, because nothing prepares us. I’m convinced it is hard enough to prepare our own head, let alone factor in variables of what others might do.

We could see every situation pessimistically – expecting worst in others – which makes us fearful, just to prevent ourselves from being disappointed. Not a healthy sounding attitude, is it?

Conversely, we could see every situation optimistically – expecting the best from everyone. This isn’t logical either, because it so often leaves us disappointed. But it strikes me as a much healthier strategy for a good life …

Be prepared to be surprised, and you always will be.

More happily than you might think …

 

Mark Kolke

P.S.: many thanks to Gusta’s many well-wishers for your notes and calls. Yesterday was a good day in court – the Condo Board’s application for dog pooch-removal was dismissed which, I hope, will be the end of it all. Gusta celebrated with a dish of her favourite (Butter Bricle from Mackay’s) ice-cream last night. It would seem that being prepared for the worst and hoping for the best is improved substantially by having a talented and passionate lawyer use the law, the facts and logic to present Gusta’s/my case was a winning strategy. Kudos to AK for steering me to Mike.

written / published from Calgary, AB

morning walk:  9C/48F, skimpy clouds (with hope for rain … ), Gusta oblivious to her turn of fate, sniffing and wandering normally, completely unaware how happy I am. Or is she?

Reader feedback:

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G.G.G. (go Gusta Go). May the courts rule in your favour! , SF, Estevan, SK .. p.s. my parents moved into a Condo with No Pets allowed. Very hard on them — coming from an Agricultural Farming background. They were always surrounded by farm animals & pets. Since my father passed away my mother gets extremely bored….missing a little buddy to share her day with. :(

Fingers crossed Mark. I am guessing that the new home for Gusta will also be your new home, PL, Calgary, AB

Best of luck re Gusta, AN, Calgary, AB

Yesterday my dear dog Parker died succumbing to Cancer which we didn’t even realize he had. Feeling TOUGH right now. Talk later, JJ, Calgary, AB

I hope all goes well today. I can’t imagine how you feel. I will keep positive outcome thoughts in my head. Take Care, LG, Calgary,AB

JUST FAUX

I have been away and seemed to have missed the condo crap about Gusta...You have had your sweet girl a long time...lived in a condo complex it sounds like for quite a while...now amendments made to the board agreements have made pet residents against the rules...Do I now have the gist? I hate to sound naive but that seems illegal. From your PS: though it appears to be the opposite. If I have gleaned it properly I think you could start a pay it fund...I would contribute, SF, Lethbridge, AB


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