Setting goals, not limits, not limitations. Declare new truth.
With affirmations, I create the improvements I want in my life – been ‘affirming’ for several years. Started with a course, based largely on Lou Tice’s teachings/writing. I’m working through his book on coaching – my focus and vigor is renewed.
Also, I’m ‘with a group of guys’ working on weight loss - I wasn’t taking that seriously enough and my paltry progress at monthly weigh-ins was proving I wasn’t taking that seriously enough. Things, are changing …
Manifesting a future ‘state of things’ through telling our brain it is already so is not manipulating with NLP – simply helping ourselves get there through visualizing we can, re-programming our ‘RAS software’ enables our nonconscious mind to believe it.
Celebrating victory before it happens isn’t fantasy; it’s making a realistic goal into reality, visualization of those changes we want to manifest. We can. We will. We do. We believe. When we state that future-state as “I am happy that ______ happened”, “I am grateful to have ______ or to have earned ______ or to have lost ______ pounds” incremental improvements arrive.
Harmonizing goal setting with visualization – making dreams into plans, planning action – I’ve always struggled. I’m focusing, maniacally, on achieving some goals. Right now, focus and determination entwined with daily quest of the weight goal.
I’m not just convinced affirmations are ‘the way’ for me, I’m convinced they are essential elements of change and growth for everyone. Reexamined – my REAL goal is not weight loss; rather, longer, better, happier and healthier life as a product of weight loss, improved lifestyle (eating better/less, sleeping better/more), writing more …
Caught up on some of your musings while trying to escape the heat. This one spoke to me. On a self repair pilgrimage of sorts - I'm a shy introvert who was happily married to an extrovert for 27 years. He above all else was the best listener I have ever met. Our first conversation was him asking me about my day. I rarely ever give a stock reply, and even at 30 I replied honestly. He stopped in his tracks and we had our first conversation. I thought he was quite an ass at first glance prior to that conversation. He was not my type. But for 27 years those differences saw us through thick and thin. He made me a better person. He taught me to listen.... to the said and unsaid words. I try to do that each day. Some days I succeed and some days I fail. My last partner, who saved my life 37 years ago and who I found again, was an introvert. We only had a short time, then and now. It was tumultuous and intense. But I would not give up any of that time we were lucky enough to capture again. So I seek neither. Both were what I needed at that time. I believe what we need finds us, ST, Hua Hin, Thailand
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