Surprises show up on their own schedule. Someone makes a decision.
Sometimes communicated right away with comments, memo or just a look …
Sometimes something physical happens – snowstorms, something breaks or leaks or overflows, someone reacts in song or doubles over in pain or grief.
The unexpected should, almost always, be expected – or at least anticipated. We don’t know what will show up, but should never be shocked when SOMETHING shows up.
Boy Scouts are taught to ‘Be Prepared’, and when we are not we are often caught by surprise.
The test of ourselves and the lessons we learn are often best learned, not just by watching our own actions and reactions, but by watching the reactions of others. They will surprise and dazzle, shock and alarm us and sometimes sweetly please use. Feelings can get hurt and bridges can be built – these are foundation moments we likely won’t learn about in other ways …
I often don’t like the unexpected when it arrives, but once I get past the initial shock of it – recognize that this new information can be seen as a problem, or as an opportunity – then I can appreciate better what is needed of me. Sometimes nothing is needed, sometimes everything I am and everything I’ve got isn’t enough.