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Monday Apr. 29, 2019

Next time you see someone identifying as lonely or proving they are a lonely one, remind them they aren’t the only one.

Only lonely people understand lonely people – who else could?

But more important than empathizing with someone, if you offer help to them, then give it. If you aren’t prepared to, don’t offer. And if you are on the receiving end of a false-promise or half-hearted shoulder/ear offer from someone and they don’t follow through, just remember that isn’t about you not being worthy but more about them not being worthy of your friendship.

It’s OK to have oops moments, as long as we learn from them and don’t repeat.

Oops.

How often to people offer some form of, “if you need me, just let me know” – and how often is it just a platitude?

Over the moon or flat like the floor, emotions seem to oscillate from floor to moon and back again.

I had a glimpse of it recently, someone offered a shoulder – or maybe it was an ear they meant, but it was unquestionably an offer to spend time, to talk, to be open. Great offer which I readily accepted only to get no response. Silence. A few days later a reply advising maybe sometime this spring, or summer …


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