We all experience vacillations, from naïve to wizened, from empty-headed to brilliant, from disconnected and isolated.
You are not alone.
Remember ~ when kids were little – hollering, “are we there yet?” from back seats; we’d laugh or scowl depending on whether that was the first time, or the 30th?
‘Are we there yet?’, can we see ourselves getting there, where we are going in life?
‘There’ can be location, state of mind, state of accomplishment – station in life, real or imagined, present or future, where we want to be.
My destination involves weight, health and strength – not just because I have some skin in the game in a middle-aged-pear-shaped guys weight loss contest, but because I have very specific plans unfolding. Over the next 20 years I require fit, formidable, off blood pressure meds and healthier/happier too. And I do see myself THERE at my destination.
Not a younger man, but elements I owned once; trim, fit, athletic, energetic and fearless.
Age/experience provide that ‘fearless’ ingredient – experiencing troubles that didn’t destroy us, they simply made us stronger, less fearful.
We all have a target in life. For many, ‘retirement’, but that alone is a mirage, an actuarial calculation of where some finance geek or government bureaucrat imagined you’d be at some certain age – without knowing you, without knowing what your dreams are made of, without knowing what untapped and underutilized talent you have – without knowing what your goals are.
And anudder ’ting, those goals aren’t right-sized, because they probably need to be bigger, bolder and harder to reach – and if so, good for you.