Basic training, from toilet-training days of toddlerhood, early in life we become schooled in this notion that we take responsibility for our own daily hygiene, our own behaviour.
Those basics last – they have to – until we get very old and, then again, others will step in to help us when we become helpless.
Why is it that we need so much help along the way?
As adults in particular, when we are mature, educated and experienced – why then do we need so much help?
Some more than others.
At some point we all need help in some form, don’t we?
It might be with money, problem solving, confidence or inspiration, steering through life’s pylons, or hauling us out of a ditch (snow, slough, emotional, financial).
Steering our self-car down the road, staying between the ditches, takes muscle. Takes energy. Takes single minded unwavering purpose. Sometimes, it takes some help getting there.
We all need when we need.
Until then, when we aren’t in need, someone else is.
Someone else is stressed or fussed or destroyed. Someone in a wretched state over some issue or problem – real or perceived – that immobilizes them. We all know someone who is, so ask yourself this: what am I doing to help?
And: when am I going to help?
Until we are in need ourselves, we can help others.
Sure, why not?
Who knows – like anything else we do and repeat every day, it might become a habit?
A simple habit, an easy one.
No time is right for starting.
No time is wrong for starting – just start.
column written/ published from Calgary
morning walk: 12C/53F, gentle breeze as dawn broke – sky clear, colours fantastic, rabbits scurrying and Gusta, oblivious to it all, lopes along – the lurches from smell to smell in glorious spurts of energy
I enjoyed reading your musings … glad you have found a sense of our BEingness and are positioned to pursue whatever DOings tickle your fancey … I agree and get what a big shift that is, J, Edmonton, AB