Could you have done something different, decided differently?
Consequences of those acts and decisions would be different – future would be different in some way.
But you didn’t.
Every little decision or action changes something, might change everything.
Consider eight people, your great-grandparents; imagine any one of them had chosen someone different, then: “would I be here?” and “what would my life be like?”
An hour from now, whatever you are doing now, will be past – irreversible, but will have consequences; just as actions have cascading consequences, so do our inactions. Things we didn’t do, things we didn’t make time for, things we didn’t follow through on have irreversible consequences too.
Future should be described as ‘the past that hasn’t happened yet’. It will.
I have often thought about how things could have been different, life taken a different turn if only I had zigged instead of zagged. Taken on a different career instead of the one that kept me employed for 40 odd years. I certainly didn’t enjoy all of it, but enough to keep at it, and as it happens, I was good at it, successful and as it turns out, respected. A rocky road in many ways but not one that, looking back, I would change unless I was prepared to sacrifice the friendships and love I found along the way and most importantly, the children. Those are certainties. The mistakes and failures contributed just as much as the successes did to the tapestry that is our lives. Wouldn’t, couldn’t change a thing, DM, Ladysmith, BC