ON PURPOSE MORE
Sunday Aug. 24, 2014
I don’t know what I don’t know.
Does anyone?
Of course – we only know what we know.
And we know who we know.
The rest – guesswork at best, but more often we don’t guess at all. We just blunder on.
I admit, much blundering past – disguised often as slick or well thought out planning, but really …. blundering.
My dial set to ‘on accident’ I’m sure. Now, my controls are adjusted to stay ‘on purpose’, with my hand on the rudder. No leaving my life on auto-pilot or letting chance or old bad habits to control my direction, my attitude or my altitude.
I like some people in the world.
Most of the 7 billion I’ve not met yet might be likeable too.
I can’t know until I meet them. So, how can I affect that outcome – so we might like each other, so we might get along, so we might build castles and cross moats together, so we might dream dreams ands scheme schemes together?
I have no control over them, only over me. I’ve come to understand that much better of late – and I’m grateful for that and my new N-friends, grateful for LK and what he’s taught me, grateful for the results that flow from changing how I am. To be precise in this – it is HOW I am, not WHO I am that has changed. Is changing. Will change.
Some folks think they know more – because they assume things, presume things and guess at things without any information at all; something between tea-leaf reader and nosiness, or ‘gut’ … hardly scientific method, or hardly any method at all.
Mark Kolke
column written/ published from Calgary
morning walk: 8C/47F, damp and overcast, calm – birdsongs taking the place of traffic noise, walked by the car lot (ones I have my eye on are still there – so I guess they didn’t sell on Saturday) … Gusta is drenched from the grass, my feet and shoes are soaked!
Reader feedback / comments always welcome:
Hello Mark, Thank you for your daily columns. I read every one and am impressed by how authentic and raw they seem to be. You sound so sad, right now that I had to email you and ask you if you are okay. I hope you are and you are continuing to find value and joy in your morning walks, these emails and the activities you listed to ask people when you ask them what they do for fun. I am sure that many people relate to your angst, but are encouraged by the potential in life. Please continue to send these emails and know that they are read and appreciated, DM, Calgary, AB
