I was thinking about what I want, what I want to do – examining who, if anyone, in my life aligns with those ideas, ideals, hopes, plans. Not many. Not many ever have. Which begs this question – was that a good strategy, or not?
Can’t change what I’ve done, who I’ve known or what paths I’ve trod.
But I can change (or not) who I know and how I know them. I can completely control the trajectory of any ambition to be or do anything I want. Like most people, I won’t stray far from where I am – and I don’t just mean geographically – because it is so easy to stay on the path we are on, and so difficult to chart new directions. Oddly, we see people all the time who are forced to choose a new direction (job loss, illness/injury, marital issues). We see them thrive, we cheer them on saying things like, “wow, I could never do that”, when in fact you can. We all can.
We humans may fail at many things, but one thing we don’t fail at is being resilient. It’s more than surviving, it’s about thriving in some new way we hadn’t planned or prepared for. So, if we can understand that, why is it so difficult to launch some new idea or journey? It’s like we’ve morphed back to being a whiny child saying, “but I can’t do it mommy”. Of course we can.
If we can do it with a load on our back, not a penny in our pocket, why can’t we just do it by choice?