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Tuesday Dec. 11, 2018

Sad quiet moments are reality.

I don’t like them, and I expect most people don’t care for them.

Still, they are some of my most instructive times. Self-pity can creep in if you let it. I don’t. At least I try to keep it at bay …

I like sad moments, the ones that come to mind when feeling blue or lonely – they are so often instructive re-thinks of past actions, of choices made and mistakes recognized but at the same time those past-acts deserve the question, “do you regret that?”

I don’t regret my life, my past, my beginnings. Easy to argue that regret over things like that isn’t useful – because the past is done and can’t be fixed. If I’d been born in a different time to different parents in a different place, different country, different climate – I’d be sitting at this stage of life, likely not as well positioned to live a comfortable life as I am, not as free as I am, not as ‘in control of my own destiny’ as I am – as I have been. When I have those thoughts I appreciate better the vast gap between where we are, and where we might be …

I live in a great country full of opportunity, a safer healthier place than most amid an embarrassment of prosperity most of the planet would envy if they only knew how great it is to have what we have here – to breathe clean air, drink clean water, have healthcare, rights, safety and fairness all around.

Sad moments are illuminating – not so much of others, but of and for ourselves …

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I’m sure this is annoying to many. HOWEVER, the REAL PAIN is the thoughtless brain dead statement “ NO WORRIES “ What the heck does that mean and where did it come from ?? Another phrase where people are robotic and with no thoughts about what they are saying and the meaning behind such blather, JJ, Calgary, AB


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