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Monday Dec. 17, 2018

People intrigue me, some confound me and some leave me panting from exhaustion because they are too much of a workout. And some people are calming like a pleasant summer breeze to have around – and these are often the people you would least expect that from.

Most people don’t behave as we predict.

How could they?

We don’t know their life, their history or what made them.

We just get to see their outward facing behavior. Many are good actors disguising what is going on inside but they can’t stop little leaks. Like a poker-player’s tell. Watch for it, wait for it, their itty-bits will come out to play. Pay attention – especially when stakes are high. Watch your wallet, watch your back, watch your heart.

Most people are far greater than they first appear. Most people are not to be feared – but we are well served to make sure we know and understand people before we open-wide and let them in because some people never leave no matter how much we wish they would.

I’ve become convinced most people are not who they appear to be, but rather appearing to be who they think they should be, which is not to say we should fear them, but we could exercise caution, less eager to accept everything or everyone at face value because their actions more than their words reveal them. Seeing them doing teaches more than what their talking about doing.

I’ve learned to believe, when people show you who they are, believe them the first time (axiom often attributed to Maya Angelou). Reminds me over and over this is truth …


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