When we are young we don’t think about it much – and whether we move towns or schools, every year we meet new people and others move on. Or we move on. Friendships are fleeting or long lasting – without much schooling on why one works out and another doesn’t. Connections aren’t disposable. For the most part they aren’t precious either – they are fluid. Even ones that last for many years, these are often like childhood friends or family. We know them, but do we really?
Isn’t about who or how or where, isn’t about fit, it is about connection. Isn’t about magic or thrills or ah+ha, it is about connection.
Frame our experiences. Meeting people is just that – we have no idea if, or how, they might take up a place in our lives, friends reaching out … or more than that?
Few things are mistakes, errors in judgment or regrettable. Most things, however, don’t work out the way we expected. It isn’t about hopes or wishes – just simple expectations not turning out in the way we might expect them.
Spent time – accepting/rejecting, wondering/reflecting – not enough rubbing shoulders with other fraid’uns, chancing connections. Hands to shake, smiles to greet – fleeting moments, opening or closing minds, opening or closing arms. Meeting strangers I find fascination, stimulation I never expect, wondering about strength of connections.
Frayed ends of a rope, outreaching hands to shake, like strands o’fraid rope – brushing, touching, random fibres entwined or tangle, itty bits. Information. Proximity. Our severed strands seeking new connections – often for sake of having connection, because lonely strands just flip around in the breeze, tattered and alone.
P.S.: to CR in Victoria – thanks for the kind offer. We’ll have to make a plan to catch-up next time I am in town.
column written/ published from Calgary, AB
morning walk: 4C/38F, steady breeze, a few clouds – walking at home without Gusta seems strange (I’m picking her up at the kennel this morning). Pleasant day shaping up, but not nearly as spring-feeling as Victoria.
Hi Mark! Just getting caught up on reading your Musings and realized you are visiting my city! When will you travelling back to Calgary? I wish to meet you in person! Is there a chance for coffee if you are still here? If not possible, then I'll have to wait for another opportunity in the near future! Have a wonderful time here and wish you safe travels!, CR Victoria, BC