At my gym – metaphorically and actually – pushing, lifting and pulling yesterday started it.
A note this morning drove it home.
We are not lifted by machines.
We are lifted by magical moments.
We are not pushed down by weight, we are pushed down by heavy moments.
Lifted by words/actions or pushed down by words/actions …
How can we not let them, when they are lifting us up?
Why do we let them when they are pushing us down?
Life/work/play, family/romance/finance, exercise/health/motivation – in these areas we are in control of how we feel and how we let words/actions of others impact us.
These are challenging times – here in Calgary. In many other places too.
We all need reminding that, strong and secure as we might feel, not everyone is feeling clear and in control of their life, not everyone’s self-ness and personal value are secure.
Not to say everyone is emotionally flattened.
Most of us are not 99% most of the time either.
Any given day most of us are neither over-inflated or slayed by off-hand, accidental or thoughtless comments.
Some folks, some days, some ways – those comments devastate, deflate and demoralize.
Too often I’ve ripped along asking/answering queries, pitching/wooing clients and colleagues and objets d’affection du jour, creating/solving problems in work and play pursuits – completely oblivious to the harm (or lack of good) I might do.
I don’t think about that much.
I should think about it more.
How many times have I failed to lift someone up when I could have so easily lifted?
How many times have I pushed someone down when I could have so easily not pushed down?
column written/ published from Calgary, AB
morning walk: -16C/3F, clear and calm [we walked vewwy early – 5AMish .. full moon hanging on the west wall of the sky]; Gusta being back to ‘regularity’ made me happy – and enjoyed that almost eerie silence
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