Afraid of nothing, or cringing constantly – which circumstance could be worse?
Fearhere, near – death of course but till then, what are we afraid of?
Public speaking, feared worse than death (urban myth, easily dispelled) disguises real fear’s more common manifestations – making big mistakes, choosing left vs. right, picking wrong partners, wrong careers, wrong turns – fear paralyzes!
Logical/memory brain says: ‘hey, it’s a simple uncomplicated decision – just choose’.
Inexplicably we freeze-up, reel at silly little things because we don’t want to acknowledge there really is something fundamental hiding among roots of indecision.We’ve all done it – no sense denying. Essential question: ‘what are we doing about it?’ so we can free ourselves from indecision’s tyrannical grip – letting go, trusting chance, trusting gut, trusting our complex multi-recalculating-calculator brain won’t steer us radically foolishly wrong-headedly into ditches, canyons of fling us off tall buildings.
Do we live at extremes of that pendulum – or do we swing in the middle-zone where a little-fear keeps us edgy, alert and always prepared for danger, for risk, for surprises? Or do we retreat from that to a safe zone, risk-free zone – our strengths and energized parked at the side of the road while all the action is over there, nearer the fast lane, caught up in the daily whoosh of activity called ‘the marketplace’ where time seems easy and cheap, where risk is handicapped and covered off with some hedge-du jour to insulate us from collapse or failure or closing off all our options.
Risk is simplified, not nearly so scary when we just call its name out load and take a chance.
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