Missing person – term torn from headlines – usually associated with foul play or catastrophe generates fear. When people disappear – they’re called missing persons to the distress and chagrin of everyone.
When someone disappears from our life, are they missing or simply staying away?
When people ‘disconnect’, it’s not the same, but devastating impact too – perhaps worse.
I was having a discussion with someone about this term in a different context – of the person who was in our life and suddenly they were gone, not through death or disappearance but just ‘gone’ the way employees resign without notice, just ‘gone’. Looking back on when this has happened to me – or when roles have been reversed, when it was me who was suddenly ‘gone’ I’m forming a revised perspective. Could silence, that disappearance, be rejection or is it something else?
Is it more sinister than that?
If we suddenly don’t like a store, a product or a customer – we just vote with our feet.
Why then should it be different with people?
Bring facetious to make my point – because love and friendship are no-less commoditized than any other relationship between buyers and sellers. Some people will want what we are selling, others will want to run away.
Amen - I agree that it's time to do something, anything... and starting small is good advice. Doing nothing is no longer a viable option. Thanks for your article - and I hope people wake up and find the guts to get into action instead of staying on the sidelines. There is a saying that people who don't go out to vote don't have the right to complain. I'm expanding this to say people who don't voice their opinion have no right to complain. I write my legislators on a regular basis and most of my friends say I'm wasting my time and energy. I disagree. How do they know what I want if I don't voice my opinion, right? The action can be as small as this.... , MM, Phoenix, AZ
Thank you for asking. All great questions. Have a great new year Mark, KB, Calgary, AB
Happy New Year, Mark! It’s been a long wait, but so very happy for you about finally reconnecting with your youngest … makes the word “family” have so much more meaning, BR, Calgary, AB
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