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Friday Jan. 18, 2019

I often hear comments about ‘being on track’. I bite my tongue and want to ask them, “What track were you on and what convinces you it was the right one?”

I don’t ask, but I think it. I don’t ask because I don’t want to be rude and it doesn’t seem right to hold up a mirror to someone who doesn’t want to have anyone peek insider …

But it’s a good point, don’t you agree?

These are easy terms to bandy about so we are comfortable hearing them as excuses …

A better question, I’ve learned, is to ask people what they are focused on. Be careful though, as they answer – or before they answer, they might ask you, “So, what are you focused on?”. It’s best if you aren’t stumped for an answer.

My point is this: you can help people who are feeling derailed by encouraging them to ask what they are focused on. If they are, great – ask them if they are feeling truly focused at the moment. And it follows of course, to be clear yourself, on what you are focused on.

Going off-track, or getting back on-track ~ implies you were on track in the first place!


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