I’ve been inundated with pieces about resolutions, planning/change, etc. – and I’ve probably written too many myself, so I’m taking a break from focus-think today, writing about something else entirely which is on my mind ~
In my quest for happiness, when I was young, it was for security (job, money, house, car, family, savings).
As I moved through divorces, business failures, more re-starts than an old computer, it became apparent I was after something more, something more profound, and something truly lasting.
In that failed quest, seeking solutions through sobriety, friendship, sex, volunteering, community service, buying things money can buy, travel – having experiences, but they most mostly failed to satisfy.
I’ve watched so many people play the ‘he who dies with the most toys wins’ philosophy – and I’ve watched people disguise their pursuit of friends and relationships by not risking they might offend anyone, not because of anything altruistic, but the more basic and obvious philosophy of ‘he who dies with the most friends and/or wins.’
Mixed in this confusion is a more important question, “what do you stand for, and what are you doing to make a difference?” because, in the end, we die, and nobody wins – but the idea we did something worthwhile before we left has growing appeal.
And truth. Conversations where the parties don’t want anything other than to learn from one another.
Is that all there is?
Sounds like a rendition of a Peggy Lee song – but it’s deeper than that and not nearly as sad or pathetic as Peggy’s lyric.
If it is important enough to stake our reputation on, we should; if it isn’t of that magnitude, we shouldn’t.
The trick is to be able to separate what matters from what doesn’t; once we can master that, everything gets easier.
Today, when you get into the meat of the day, mountains of work, endless meetings, and in every tech connection, ask yourself, “Is this worth laying it all on the line for?”