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Wednesday Jan. 9, 2019

Someone wrote to me recently by accident.

He wasn’t writing to me. Rather, he thought he was forwarding my column to his friend. He hit ‘reply’ rather than ‘forward’, so I got his comments. Nice, kind. I appreciated his comments. One phrase stood out – “he lives in his head”. That one has been rolling around in my brain for a while now. I think he’s right.

I went googling for thoughts of others addressing this question; these are representative:

It can mean a lot of things. Largely depends on the context in which it was said. I will try to answer in a very general way. It could mean that the person is only planning things, but not taking steps to implement it. Like building sand castles. It could also mean, that you are oblivious to people or things around you, and you are judging a situation based on only yourself, and not taking into consideration other factors which are out of your control. It could also mean in a motivational way. If you dive deeper into that sentence. All your imagination is in your head, so if you can put your mind to it, nothing is impossible.

You asked the right guy because I've been told this several times.  I think they're just saying, based on their observations, that I am often oblivious to my external surroundings.  This can actually be quite true in many instances.  I tend to find my internal thoughts more interesting than all the boring stuff and people around me. My mom told me something along those lines before, on several occassions. In her case, she means that I spend more time thinking about things than interacting with them in the real world.

I’m unsure whether living in my head is a good thing or not, not sure if that comment was compliment or critique. I’ll take it simply as observation – a question I need to answer myself, “do I live in my head, and if I do, should I (or could I) change that?”

Reader feedback:

SEQUENCE OF THOUGHTS

Today’s musings prompted me to send you this email which is another blog [ https://www.diamandis.com ] I like. As for where ideas come from and making sure they get used before their best before date, that was an ahah! moment for me. As for our minds and endless time I think we are limited by practical physics in that there really are only so many hours in a day. Our minds aren’t limited by time or space really because we can range forward or back with our imaginations.   Endless space for ideas if we are willing to entertain them. Not sure you ever have time to explore off the wall writers but if you do try Kurt Vonnegut and his novel Slaughterhouse 5.  Some interesting speculations about what happens when our minds get detached from the linear stream of times arrow. Keep writing and I will keep reading!, DM, Ladysmith, BC


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