We understand overthrowing governments, righting wrongs/injustices (or trying to) – we get that. Self-change? Not so much. I mean, ‘me changing me’ or ‘you changing you’.
Simple enough – think it, decide it, do it.
Behaviour modification in our dog or with a two-year old is virtually impossible. So why do we think we can do it with ourselves? Happens, methinks, when enough stress accumulates – picture in our mind of ‘not changing’, knowing we MUST change. Mixed with some necessity. Drives us to action. Seems to be happening here …
Changing anything verges on impossible. If changing the world, my country, my profession, my city, my peer group or my family – most readers would smile and say, “sure, I get it”. Why?
We perceive our ideas, feelings and causes – however noble, innovative, timely and worthy – will be like pushing a big rock up a steep hill. And going it alone. If affecting change in others is so hard – there ought to be a simpler place/way to affect change.
I hate/resist as much as everyone does – not because resisting is good policy (often it is a very bad idea), but because we need to face and admit a failing(s) and make change(s).
If these changes were a book, where in that book store would they put it? Self-help? Or, ‘the helped-self’? (or best seller?)
There are details. Won’t list them. Need more time to stew, simmer and test-drive. Need more time to consider – am I working/writing better, happier, more fulfilled, more energized, fitter, healthier, wiser?
Could be ONE CHANGE. Likely more. When the student is ready …
written / published from Calgary, AB
morning walk with Gusta: 11C/52F, quiet, calm, overcast (and the forecast suggests another afternoon/evening of thundershowers awaits!), Gusta found no difficulty getting her coat drenched in the tall grass …