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BEWARE OF LIFE – IT COULD KILL YOU

Thursday, July 30, 2020
 
 
 
What is, vis-à-vis, what could have been?
 
That’s a rear-view mirror time-wasting question, isn’t it?
 
What is, vis-à-vis, what could be?
 
Now that’s a better use of time and brain cells.
 
Better to focus on what could be?
 
What could be now, next, next month, next year, or next time something happens – what COULD be?
 
I’m not a theorist.
 
I’m a practical-ist with dreamer roots.
 
So often I’ve tilted at windmills, or simply blown the air around with words and wishes. Recent times have caused me to realize I need to put more action into my life to replace too much reaction to what others do.
 
Dreams have been shelved, but they need the dust knocked off them.
 
Bold ideas, the BHAGs (big hair audacious goals) won’t be accomplished by anyone else, and who would trust that dream, that vision, to anyone else?
 
I am amazed by the energy people pull out of their socks – energy we’d forgotten, a power that can be reclaimed, and goals can be re-set. It is our work. It is our cause. It is our duty to our dreams to make them into reality. We cannot sit at the bus stop waiting for the dream-bus to arrive. Ideas that come with rockets attached, because dreams are about trajectory – not about safe landings.
 
Life will kill you.
 
The question, between now and the day it does, is how hard are you working to make some dream, someone’s ideal come to fruition?
 
Start with your own dreams, and lend a hand for someone else’s too. You have plenty of energy, plenty of experience, and plenty of time (provided you intend to live a very long time).
 
What’s the trick?
 
Live and take care of your health as if you are going to live long enough to do everything you think you get done.
 
AND, work hard and fast because you might be wrong about the long-life thing …
 
 

 
 
Reader feedback: 
SELF-INFLICTED
Such a true and relevant commentary.  I have a couple of rules that have really helped me: (1) I never take my cell phone into a restaurant or to the dinner table.  Even if you don’t answer it, just seeing it vibrate or flash causes a reaction, so just give yourself meal times without interruption; (2) Put your charger cord in the kitchen or any room away from your bedroom.  Once you plug it in for the night, go to bed and do not listen for it.  This has been a huge improvement over plugging the phone into a charger in the bedroom. ~ I remember the simplicity of coming into the office and finding five or six paper phone messages waiting.  How nice to prioritize them, return some calls either immediately or later.  The cell phone gives you little or no time to gather your thoughts, GB, Calgary, AB

GRAB INDECISION BY ITS MONDAY
Good morning Mark. I believe these two comments is an accurate reflection of what most of us are feeling these days.  
~ The simple ‘getting together,’ even at safe-distances, seems fraught with decision-making challenges,
~Sadly, we are second-guessing things more – right down to the simplest of tasks and decisions.
 As we contemplate our next moves, it’s difficult not to reflect on what we would have done in the “good old days”. Begs the question, “are they really over for good?”. Great article; loved it, JKE, Kelowna, BC


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