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NO SAFE WAY
… too often self-trapped, believing there is only one, or two choices to get what we want
Saturday June 14, 2014
 
 
I believe in stating wants, wishes, objectives – setting out what we want, expectations, desired outcomes – then negotiating them. Whether crafting dreams, solving old complex problems or kicking some well-deserving person in their pants …
 
I am amazed when apparently mature, smart and experienced folks shift (and lose sleep lover this) from bravado of complaint, to inaction, choosing comfort of certainty, choosing safety as if those are risk-free zones where they can park. 
 
Risk-free doesn’t mean happy. 
 
How do we bridge that?
 
Define what you want. Describe who you want it from. Detail how you to get what you want. Then, go get it!
 
Everything usually boils down to only one obvious daunting choice, one action to take. 
 
Set aside your intellectual capacity to know there are many choices – think like most of us when resolving complex problems – address ‘there is only one thing I can do’ mentality.
 
But, ‘what if I make the wrong one?’
 
Better to make none?
 
‘I could make the wrong choice.’
 
You’ll live another day, have another chance, make another choice.
 
At that point many, like deer trapped by headlights – frozen, uncertain of everything, ill-prepared, under-courage-d to do anything.
 
Any sampling, in any room – would we not find people at opposite ends of this spectrum? 
 
I think not. 
 
We are crouched together over at one end, the chicken droppings end.
 
If something we want is going to happen, nobody cares particularly.
 
Nothing happens on its own. 
 
Only one choice, one way to make things happen – our own action.
 
Are you waiting on life – for time to pass, for rain to fall?
 
For what are you waiting?
 
Act.
 
Now.
 
 
 
Mark Kolke
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column written/ published from Calgary
 
morning walk:  8C/46F, after-drizzle chill, light breeze, soggy dog – the neighbourhood sleeps, cars rest – taking the weekend off; Gusta smelled something (no doubt something rotting) in the tall grass and nearly ripped my shoulder off as she raced to it, oblivious to the reality no other critters were in sight, yet she went for it like it was the only prize ever.

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