CONSEQUENCES INTENDED OR NOT
Friday June 16, 2017
Waking up, shaking up – sometimes we take steps to wake someone – sleeping child, client who can’t seem to react to important matters, non-responsive employee or supplier. Oblivious, argumentative . We need to wake them. Shake them up.
Get them paying attention to what is important.
Important to us!
Is that important to them?
Possibly not.
When we wake someone or shake them up do we use a soft word and kind touch, or harsh reality of blunt words and dismissive memos?
When shaking ourselves up, waking ourselves up – when we’ve been non-response, oblivious, argumentative … what then? Are we too kind? Too harsh? A bit of both? More importantly, do we have balance in this or are we ‘off-balance’, reeling from some harsh reality that came through the phone line or was delivered like a wet rag to our face?
Waking up to reality is difficult – sometimes harsh. We don’t like it (even though it might be just what we need at the time) when someone delivers a harsh message, an unexpected message or one that is completely “!@_%!(@&$@!&#” unintelligible …
When we have to wake someone who wandered off-track, off-course far outside the boundaries of reality – should we shock them, or gently rock them awake?
Sometimes kindness is a ‘rude awakening’, but most often a rude awakening produces a result with neither like or are prepared for. Well, if we thought about it first we would be prepared – but when are bouncing around like a bull in a china shop, we usually don’t stop of thinking and planning.
Consequences are usually not as intended.
Yet, every action tends to have consequences.
