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Monday June 18, 2018

Most people don’t state their wishes or dreams for pairing in economic or geographical terms – they just want to be happy every morning, happy every night and have something worthy to apply their body and brains to each day. How then, can we who might ‘be a perfect’ match, not find each other?

Kids getting what they want from parents or teachers – or other way round – benefitting greatly from one reading the other correctly. Politicians reading public opinion, advertisers reading markets, managers reading staff.

We get that. Makes sense, right?

Why then, given our abilities ‘reading people’, are divorce rates so high?

Why do men misread women - or other way round?

I’m pretty smart, but I get it wrong often.

Easy I suppose to just keep trying but that seems so bereft of intelligence or intuition of learning from experience …

I want what I want. Seems little different from what most people desire; fun, companionship, stimulation on many levels, attraction, some common interests/concerns, availability, and a commitment of quality time.

I have encountered several women recently who, each in different ways, captured my attention; in each case they engaged me happily in conversation – engaging, intelligent and lightly flirtatious. Each time no fit. (married, recently broken up, too young, recently widowed – assuredly unavailable relationship material). My assessment of opportunity/possibility proven false. I know, the obvious – maybe it’s me, maybe I should get my eyes checked, but would I see that? Maybe I should get the wax removed from my ears, but would I hear more effectively what I should have been hearing between the lines?

Maybe it’s me.

Maybe it’s she.


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