Sunday, June 20, 2021
I expect most people are too; overconfident that we calmly take suggestions and constructive critique well – accepting slights with grace, appreciation, and smiles.
That’s my theory …
When I hear snide, sarcastic or passive-aggressive comments directed toward me or when I’m listening to those derisive comments being made regarding someone else, that’s an affront that doesn’t settle down easily – it rankles.
But, I realize that’s just in that moment (it passes, like a well-expelled fart), leaving me disrespecting that person who delivered that message.
Though I might never say anything, likely forgetting the words exchanged, I don’t as easily discard my feelings about that person or my recollection of how I felt.
We quickly react, forming negative impressions of businesses, faux-friends, colleagues and clients who treat us poorly.
Then comes the choice.
It can become an ongoing festering pustule of disdain and contempt, feelings we have trouble shedding – or, it is a nothing.
It only takes a moment, but it is a crucial choice-making moment.
Maybe time is softening my reactions – or just slowing them down!
In any event, I’m noticing more often and reacting less often, and – when I respond, it’s less emotional, less knee-jerk, and more me-jerk.
Offensive actions shouldn’t be allowed to pass unnoticed.
That’s part of my theory too.
Experience teaches us to tactically take time – to act, react, or ignore more decisively.
In the end, little things build-up, but not in a good way.
It is better to address them if they are essential or urgent, but if they aren’t, let them pass, but ‘in the moment’ – being clear-headed about the difference between them.
That’s my theory.