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Saturday June 6, 2015

 

Someone being kind, being nice, said something I chose to interpret as criticism rather than critique, skewering rather than supportive.

Sure, he meant well.

Still bothering me this morning – can’t get this out of my head. I’ll spill it here instead.

I’ve gotten past that comment, I’m not angry.

How many times have I been that quipping one – cute or funny or vague with someone – when they interpret my attitude as smug, arrogant, dismissive, unkind?

Many.

Learning something I could have and should have learned better long ago is humbling.

To those I’ve irritated when I should have praised, to those I’ve insulted when I was simply wanting to be funny, to those I’ve insulted, demeaned or devalued in the course of shallow banter – I’m sorry, I wasn’t looking.

I wasn’t thinking.

I wasn’t learning much.

 

Mark Kolke

column written/ published from Calgary, AB

morning walk:  15C/60F, steady breeze and brilliant sunshine lit a nearly cloudless sky. Foot feeling fine, we headed for a longer walk than usual (in part, a test to preview whether I can walk 18 holes this afternoon) and Gusta was thrilled to sniff places she’s not been in a while and chase some squirrels. The squirrels were never in danger …


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