I find myself listening for that more and more. Though my hearing might be not as good as it used to be, this message is ringing clearer and clearer …
Learning too often comes too slowly, too painfully, too little, too late, too sad, too bad …
Losses, in all its forms, like gains – make their own timetable.
Some, come all at once.
Some come in incalculable stages. Never completely clear to me what the real lesson might be until, in the fullness of time, clarity arrives.
Take today for instance, I read an obituary of someone I never met. She died. I know her husband, though scarcely.
Take today, for another instance, my computer diary reminds to ‘call my dad’.
To console him, because today is the anniversary of my mother’s death.
Marking her passing-date was not so important for me. Still, it was very important for him.
I can’t make that call anymore. He’s gone. I haven’t deleted that entry from my computer calendar. One day I will. Meanwhile, nice to have that reminder of what I felt, reminder of how he felt. Over time, he missed her less. He focused more on remembering – in part to make sure he wasn’t forgetting. Remembering and being sad. I didn’t understand that as well when he was alive. I do now. I can’t console him today.
I could send a condolence note to that guy who lost his wife.
We are torn, moved and stunned.
Some days, simply by calendar reminders.
column written/ published from Calgary, AB
morning walk: -5C/22F, light breeze, invigorating, a few scattered clouds – gorgeous sunrise taking shape and I’ll be watching that sun as it rides across the sky (I’ll be enroute to Maui this afternoon and watching the sun go down from 35,000 ft.); see you tomorrow from a few time-zones over …
Hi Mark. We just returned from Maui on Sunday. Viewed whales every day from our lanai. Had the best meal ever at Lahaina Grill – Richard III was our waiter. Also met Randy Schaffer from Makai Glass – very talented glass blower. Weather was rainy and windy several days but loved every minute. We highly recommend Tracey – the concierge at Mana Kai. She is extremely knowledgeable and has given us excellent service over the years. If you like to sail ask her to book Capt Mike’s trip for you. We followed up on your recommendation and went to the Sea House one evening for happy hour and sunset and dinner. Enjoyed it very much. Aloha!, RVW, Edmonton, AB
Bon Voyage, Mark. Am certain you’ll think you’ve arrived in Paradise when you reach Maui. The air smells so different there. Hope your vacation is filled with wonderful experiences, joy, and relaxation, BR, Calgary, AB. P.S.: Hubby had procedure. Waiting to find out if he’ll be released to home or to a facility. Memory was impacted quite severely from pressure to the brain.
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