None of us are – but like snowflakes and pebbles, we are indistinguishable in our substantial sameness …
When things happen in and around our lives that shakes our foundation, when things happen which cause us to question our beliefs and assumptions in life – what then?
This questionable period we all experience is easily understood when someone close dies or a business fails or when someone loses their job – it is simply grief. We know the word, we think we understand the issue. But do we recognize it when the cause or event isn’t so obvious?
When someone realizes something won’t happen, realized something isn’t possible and that something cannot be undone – that too is grief; the grieving of one’s expectations. Things we expected to happen, things we expected to be possible are now rendered impossible. Not irrelevant, but not possible. If someone died, we get that – we cannot see them again, do things with them or talk to them and they will not go on to do things we expected them to do.
But loss of a dream, loss of a hope, loss of an expectation, loss of trust, loss of faith in something or someone?
You see all of these with only one set of eyeballs. We can empathize with someone but we can never see their grief through their eyes. Don’t even try. Don’t say, “I know how you are feeling” because you couldn’t possibly.
We all look alike from up high or far away, but none of us are alike.
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