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Friday Mar. 25, 2016

What does anyone understand about anyone else?

We think we do – whether informed, educated or read, or not – because we assume and judge.

Assuming things and judging people – assumptions which are often wrong. Wouldn’t be wrong if other people thought just like us …

Surprise!

They aren’t.

And because they aren’t, our assumptions prove false. Not wildly false, but false. How could they possibly be accurate?

Would it hold then, if we get to know someone better, we would understand them better – and then, make better assumptions? Seems ludicrous, because if we got to know someone better – we would know them, know about them. There would be no requirement for assumptions.

Where am I going with this line of thinking?

Well – I think knowing someone, no matter how open they might appear to be or trying to be, they are not known to us. We only see what they reveal. Which, of course, begs this: “what are we revealing?”

Or, more particularly: “what am I revealing?” Is it, ‘as much as I can?’, or ‘as much as I dare?’

Today is spiritually significant in many faiths and cultures. To many, it’s a day off. Whether or not you subscribe to Easter fun, or religious thought, I believe it is a good sign – is it not? Here we have a Friday, a holiday. That doesn’t happen very often. Spare day available for thinking. Why not do some?

Are you someone of faith or not?

It’s a bit like asking: ‘white meat or dark?’ … you never know what someone will say, or why, but chances are pretty good we’ll make an incorrect assumption. 

 

Mark Kolke

written / published from Calgary, AB

morning walk:  -1C/30F, overcast – dusting of snow on the grass hasn’t melted yet but the streets are wet, not enough to wash away the grime of winter but enough to keep the dust down. Gusta seemed anxious – I thought she was on to a mystery scent but we didn’t witness any wildlife. Traffic is taking the day off … Good Friday!

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Congratulations. And good luck Mark on April 5th, TA, Calgary, AB


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