I’ve found I learn most from people when I’m not probing deeply, but when I watch them in action.
People are funny.
Sometimes for what they say.
Sometimes for what they don’t or won’t say because truth telling is hard for some people – and in some cases, it’s not about truth or twists on “I don’t want to hurt their feelings” when in reality all people want honestly. Not ‘sledge hammer to forehead’ honesty, but simple whole complete unvarnished truth.
Tell me truth without taking a long side-trip around a conversation, tell me what I need to hear not just what I like to hear, tell me when to stop, tell me when to start, tell me tell me tell me …
Telling truth means so much more than pleasantries.
Telling truth is real, explaining why is that deeper form of real. We need that so much.
Obviously we need it from leaders on large scale and on small stage – we need it from our neighbours and we need it from everyone at every stage of this project called life.
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