Open to additions/amendments, or Monday’s agenda, this week’s agenda, some boss’s/client’s agenda – or your life-affirming-fulfilling agenda?
I’ve read valid observations: people focused too much on work, not enough on other things, lacking ‘balance’ they talk about – really imbalance at best, chaos most often – whereby families and personal ambitions get delayed, ignored or completely altered by ‘job’, ‘career’ or some obligation.
Traditionally, that was men getting it wrong, shortchanging spouses and children. Today, women too – albeit different terminology, obstacles and wardrobe; yet, when you pull back curtains, it looks the same.
If our job, business, pursuit of deals or projects is our #1 focus, can’t we be truthful about that – just admit, ‘it’s more/most important’. Not to say family/spouses aren’t too – but reality proves differently.
My view: if more of us admitted openly what gets our energy flowing most, our emotions engaged most – we would say ‘it’s this thing I do every day’. For everyone it is different. For me, writing #1, doing deals #2, speaking #3 – and #4 is everything else. Meaning – family, friends, sports, socializing, my dog, cooking, travel, golf – all those things and many more, tied for 4th.
No ‘significant other’ in my life today, though I’m hoping to find ‘her’ soon – but then, what can I offer?
Sure, that ‘snap, crackle, pop’ of newness, when intellectual sparing stretches into warmth, faithfulness and companionship. We all offer/seek these ingredients, but at the end of my story – what I want, what I have to offer, is ‘honey, you’re in the mix, tied for #4’.
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