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Wednesday May 15, 2019
 
On any subject we can divide everything/everyone in two groups.

Could be hundreds of categories but we often choose simplistically – only two.

For or against.

Believers, non-believers.

Doers and don’t people.

Distinctions serving little purpose other than illustrating stark differences rather than worthiness of viewpoints.

Is it more complicated?

Or less so …

Too often we have: emotional volatility + truncated communication = %!@&)!@%#)&

Should emotionally volatile people work with/connect with their like? Or their opposites?

Should good communicators work with/connect with their like? Or their opposites?

Most of the time we don’t get to make those choices.

Those are simply gaps to bridge – sometimes deep gorges!

Conversely, we can turn people aside who don’t fit. We can focus, laser-like, on those who fit who are like minded who have a like temperament. Not sure if that’s an ideal of any kind, but that would certainly narrow the field.

When we are looking for customers, most of us don’t want to narrow the field – we want to be open to everybody and we accept/tolerate their differences.

Friends, family and mates – well now it’s different. We want focused, narrowed, we want what we want and we want to sort/sift-out those who don’t fit.

How big is our tent, how wide our circle?

Do we want one elusive prize so we can shout ‘eureka’ one day?

Memories repeat in my head – of experiences and people. I sometimes wonder if the reason they keep resonating is because of the people or the experiences we had.

Which is the reason for them taking up space in my memory – or both?

Might be more than two reasons.

 
 
 
     
 
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