Affirmation, repetition of that affirmation – reading them, writing them, re-writing them and drilling them into myself is a helpful exercise in NLP (neuro-linguistic programming).
My current focus/affirmation: I am grateful to have control over my life.
Like I didn’t have it before?
I did, but like so many people (I believe we are all the MANY), I let control slip through my fingers.
Which begs this question, “If I’m not in control, then who is?”
For most of us, combo of: spouse/partner, boss, customer, friends/family … taken together with all their expectations of us. Drilling deeper, whose expectations are those, really? Ours, or our rationalization that what we are doing is to please them, to meet their needs, to satisfy their requirements. These are not bad things or ill-considered ones – but priorities get skewed.
First, what are my expectations of me? What are your expectations of you? Maybe, if we meet those expectations – meet them first, we’ll be better able/suited/ready to meet those of others.
When we meet expectations of others, who defines that?
Why don’t we ask them what their expectations are of us – clarify where we are in agreement, lets sign-on, sign-up, suit-up and get on board? Until then, back to our respective corners, back to our own drawing board.
What do I need and want in my life?
Who decides, who controls, who makes change?
There are some things I’m not real happy about right now.
Only I can fix that. I am. I will.
I ask no help from others to get my priorities straight.
I appreciate and am grateful to have control of my life.
No race-horse, no snail’s pace either – but feeling, deep to my toes that what is going on and what is happening has a sense of planning and design to it.
Aging one day at a time, living one day at a time.
Plan A is clear. So is Plan B. Both require plenty of action and effort, time and thought, a general plan and specific goals – I make my plan, I set my goals, determining what success looks like.