Could that / could I / could we … ever be that way again, that good again, that happy again?
We’ll be alright again.
Sometimes we can’t see that. Sometimes we can’t see anything else.
Neither is a state of mind for sustaining, or wanting to. Between extremes we maneuver life’s pylons and pile-on-moments, between laughter and tears – alive emotionally, tasting, thirsting and never skating along unaffected …
How often does recollection, memory of someone – some moment – need to cross our minds for our attention to be arrested, captured? Held? Once in a while, in a week, a year, in our lifetime …
When that happens for you, is that a moment of joy? Or of some hellish nightmare moment?
Or nothing in particular?
I find this an interesting mental exercise at two times: when I’m feeling low, or when I’m feeling dangerously high, ebullient and full of myself.
In every instance, this process stabilizes me. Centers me. Grounds me. For days. For hours. Or for a few minutes. Smiling at an old photo. Or memento we came across in a drawer that stopped us in our tracks. What kind of experience do we want for ourselves – what do we want to give to others?
Try, for one minute.
Avoiding all distraction, just live in – inhabit – that memory, that recollection of joy or pain or triumph or sadness.
Not to re-live it, but harness it’s energy or dampening at that moment you might need it most.
We might NOT need it right now, so just do it.
Do it for practice – so when you do need it, you’ll remember how.
P.S.: in the world of joy and pain, I find the term ‘pain management’ shows up a lot, but I find no reference to ‘joy management’ or ‘joy control’. If you are wanting to see joy management in action, watch a child of any age for five minutes. For a double dose, watch for ten. Or watch two children …
written / published from Calgary, AB
morning walk: -6C/33F, clear and calm, a light dusting of snow from last evening – fresh air, fresh-feeling feet …. pain-free walk/almost a trot, Gusta seems so happy her coat thickness is matching the weather after too many months of to opposite …
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