Soak it up, suck it all up, smiling blithely while others do their thing, well thought through or not, and just accept it – no need to figure something out, figure someone out – my only job, to figure ME out.
That’s your job too – figure YOU out. We all own this responsibility. We focus attention on figuring others out, telling them what is right or wrong or left or right in them – shaded with comments about how that impacts us.
No readily apparent solution for complex personal questions – seems to be the nature of humans – that need, desire and quest of figuring things out, figuring out others, figuring out ourselves, struggling – for answers, understanding, and acceptance. One day we wake to realize there are situations where answers are not required