I’ve torched a few, blown up a few and sometimes had to rebuild a few. I think most of us do these things, and I’m not saying that to have company in my misery – I really believe this is something most of us have in common.
Back to the burning of bridges; sometimes we regret that later – and sometimes we regret that we didn’t just blow them up, never to be rebuilt.
There is a third alternative.
It’s ‘knowing which one to have not built in the first place’, because none of us have that degree of clever foresight – but sometimes dismantling that bridge is the better course.
I’ve had this happen recently. I could have blown up the bridge, but really I just wanted to ‘alter things’ with one person. In younger days I would have gone into bridge pyrotechnics mode – and I did for a few minutes, but I re-thought, re-calculated, set about instead to unwind my bridge with that one person. Not the others, not the whole group, not the organization – just one person. He can’t figure it out. That’s not my job, or my worry. All that angst – from ‘issue’ to resolution took a couple of hours. Benefits will last and last and last. It’s not over. Relationship continues, but sans-bridge.
We can build bridges, burn them or blow them up.
Or we can dismantle them, return our landscape to the way it was before we constructed a relationship that won’t work.
Love making stock soup, canning, chilis and sauces. One freezer designated for clippings. My sonic machine was the best investment. I get a year in the freezer on most everything. Have fun making soup, MJ, Calgary, AB
I hope your soup turns out...sound like a good idea!, UM, Toronto, ON
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