Measuring how we feel and recording our feelings makes a difference – these are good practices.
Keeping a journal or diary, we can record how happy we are or the difficulties we find ourselves facing because when we look at those recorded thoughts at a future time, we get some perspective on them.
That’s something we can’t do in that moment, in the heat of the moment, in the rage of the moment – whatever the immediate case might be.
It is more critical to our understanding or how we feel – pausing to record what we are thinking and feeling is valuable – it lets us calm down or come back from a temporary high to see reality. The leavening effect of pausing, taking a deep breath, and resolving to solve the problem another day or to let the euphoria or anti-euphoria of that moment settle in …
These are things we get to experience unless we let our excitement or our anger rule the day, and we miss that. Recent happenings have brought this into stark relief for me, and I’m working on resolving a problem, a conflict, I’m having with someone on the other side of a business situation. It’s not fun, I’ve not lost my temper, but I’ve lost my composure a couple of times lately.
Stepping back – this is not my first rodeo; I’ve encountered conflict situations before, but it’s different now. I could attribute the differences to my diagnosis/medication, but there is more to it than that, so I have things to wrestle to the ground. As I talk about and write about this, I’m ruminating over how I can resolve this situation differently – and see what is to be learned, what can be taught to others.