I’ve been giving thought recently to what it is that contributes to success vs. failure, what it is that makes the difference between achieving and falling short, between winning and nearly winning [I watched a TV comedian’s parody on people saying “It is what it is”. Everybody laughed, a Seinfeld-esque laugh, knowing they were laughing at something that was really just nothing, about nothing. I read a scholarly piece on this subject and felt no better informed].
Too simplistic to say confidence.
Most of us don’t get far without some – usually a lot. Even if it is a false self-worth, we aren’t going to convince anyone of much if we aren’t convinced ourselves.
Fearlessness, I suppose.
As in, not afraid to fail. More importantly, is not being afraid to succeed. And, when we do, mastering that fine line between gracious and smug – feeling some of each, but show neither too fully so we won’t be seen as foolish, or unworthy. Who wants to feel like that?
Winning isn’t everything. Or only thing.
Neither a ribbon or a trophy, it is knowing, feeling that we’ve known, and knowing how clear it is that we still don’t know very much …
It is what it is.
written / published from Calgary, AB
morning walk: 15C/59F, a few clouds and mild breeze – what a fantastic morning. The scale reading was unchanged, but I felt lighter on my feet. Maybe it is the feeling of thanks and giving – the weekend mode setting in. Maybe it is winning two Toastmasters contests last night. Maybe it is watching Gusta walk and run and poop – without any expectation of having to please anyone but herself. I get to watch that every day. Lucky me!
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