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Sunday Sept. 10, 2017

On a course I took …

Instructor quoted cliché: “birds of a feather flock together”, reminding us, “be careful who you flock with”.

His context, stay connected. Like-minded people, common values, strong supportive influencers upon each other. ‘Flocking with’ people as invested in your success and wellbeing as you are in theirs …

Great advice!

By pop-icon fans, sports fans, political junkies or groupie-wannabes – we are reminded, while we are likely anonymous in ANY crowd, ‘they’ are watched closely in EVERY crowd.

Obviously, different flocks.

People move from obscurity to fame – often seen on TV or movie screens, athlete or actor or politician goes from ‘unknown’ to ‘steals the show’ overnight.

Our ‘flock’ (I’m told 400 is average) – friends, colleagues, neighbours and family know us, while 7.5 billion earthlings don’t us at all. Likely never will. Anonymous crowd faces, conspicuously standing where we are, yet invisible and completely inconsequential to nearly everyone outside our flock.

Are we trying to build relationships, clientele, circle of friends – watching over our flock of 400 – or chasing that 7.5 billion?

Our product or service or message should be worthy of spreading around.

If not, maybe we should do less spreading.

Someone I met last weekend told me a story, a ‘change of attitude’ triggered by a ‘critical disease diagnosis’. That change, to say YES. As much as possible, wherever possible, whenever asked. Then came further information: diagnosis was wrong, life not in peril. But saying YES technique lingered.

I’ve been trying to adopt that notion. I said YES three times last week – I’ve noticed, situations where I might have ordinarily said ‘maybe’. Or ‘no’. Instead, YES.

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