Creates expectations. And follow-through obligations.
For instance, announce your new diet – then people will be watching your weight with you. Announce planning a trip – and people will offer suggestions and then await your reports on your journey.
Announce any new job, new business, new venture – everyone will want to know. They will offer congratulations. And, just like that diet, they’ll be watching and waiting to see if you follow through and if your boasts, hopes and dreams are matched by your results.
But you wonder, are they watching to cheer your success or to giggle about your failure?
And then there are all the things we don’t announce, but people know anyway. And they watch. They talk, they judge and they don’t tell us what they are thinking. But we know they are mumbling amongst themselves.
My point in all this is that we set ourselves up a bit for this dynamic. Sometimes we produce turtle behavior – we pull back into our shell and hide out from the world. Because we don’t want to be judged. Not yet anyway, because we don’t need more criticism for our shortcomings, our ‘failures to do’ and our ideas that bombed. We shower enough of that shitake on ourselves.
So, what’s the fix for this?
Is there one?
I’m working on three new projects right now. Not ready to tell the world about any of them yet. One will be soon (Monday Sept. 10th), another this fall, another next spring. But first I have to get some monkeys off my back and ‘things are that aren’t as important’ off my plate.
Absolutely, agree. People put to much stock in what others think about them instead of what they think of themselves. Everyone has a story, good bad or indifferent. How we accept and love ourselves matters. I always say who cares what other people think. Live your Life for you, not for anyone else. If they are meant to be part of your journey that's awesome, if not move on. I have been asked that very question many times "Who are you," and my response has always been the same. " I Am Me, take it or leave it." All that is important and that matters is what am I doing every day to better myself and make this a better world to live in. Beyond that nothing else matters, MJ, Calgary, AB