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Thursday Apr. 5, 2018

We’ll all had these conversations: “Sure you are right. There is no other way to see things.”

Or, is there another way?

Our choice of words often gets in the way of getting things done, and how we deliver those words has a huge impact on how our message is received – which too often can vastly different from what we intended. In personal situations and surely in business ones.

Almost always hit ‘send’ too soon when we should not have sent that message, when we should have called or when we should have just sat on our hands so we couldn’t hit send.

Most of the time I’ll admit that I don’t particularly care (which is not to say I don’t empathize) that deeply what others think, or why – so long as I’m doing or saying things which make sense to me, which fit my comfort zone …

But add an ingredient of ‘I’m trying to make a good impression’ and these dynamics change. Not 180 degrees different, but different. Maybe we all do this. Impress the prospective client, prospective employer, prospective ‘date’, prospective supporter etc. etc. etc.

Should it matter, should we be different?

Everything can be explained another way, can it not?

Reader feedback:

HEIGHT IS A RELATIVE TERM

Ahhhhhh the lunacy reigns these days, everyone pointing to systems no one feels empowered to fix. Those of us who take responsibility for ourselves know better. Onward!, JB, Edmonton, AB

SELLING, MORE ALIVE THAN DEAD

I read  your musings column and the content  always gives me a moment to pause and reflect.    You are a prolific writer. The best to you…, JB, Calgary, AB – from London, UK


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