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Tuesday Feb. 20, 2018

Some days we are at our best.

Some days, pendulum swings the other way – we are immediately at our worst.

When that happens I struggle – knowing my worst enemy is the next cranky conversation or quick/knee-jerk reply to someone – knowing the way I’ll say/write things will not be how I wish them to be. Apologies help, but prevention is better. I find radio-silence works best …

Which makes me wonder, what do others do? How do others cope – those days when we want to do more than let the air out of someone’s tires or set our fax machine on re-dial to someone’s direct line or other such pranks?

Venting is one thing – not reacting badly seems ideal; but not reacting at all is to deny our reality and to deny that a pendulum swings …

Reader feedback:

LESS MANAGEMENT, MORE NAVIGATION

Thanks Mark. This made me think. It's all about perspective. Grainier than the forest and trees thing, it's more like a jigsaw puzzle where pieces have to fit together. If I'm standing on a piece, my horizon is limited and I can't see clearly how that piece connects to those around it. As I consciously rise above it, I see these connections and I see the big picture emerging. That is when I can get some (Covey like) of what is important and not urgent. But it's at that big picture that other criteria come into play - like what if the picture I see is wrong. Where then do I spend my energy?, MG, Calgary, AB


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