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Tuesday July 24, 2018

Decisions and facts are supposed to be connected or at least correlated; we gather facts, weigh them, then make choices … or so it seems we should.

Most often (as Malcolm Gladwell, Dan Ariely and others so often prove to us) we are irrational. Not wrong, but not as right as we could be most of the time – because we don’t get all the facts, don’t make rational judgements …

I don’t think we can be ideal, but couldn’t we try to be better?

On day to day matters at home and at work, most of us deal with facts/details, processes and decision points along our paths. Detail matters. Deliberate matters. But in that large territory called personal lives – so much of what we do and decide is based upon emotion over facts, instinct over patience, ‘how we feel’ in the moment over deliberation.

Then, when we least expect, something happens. A phone rings, a message comes in – tables are turned upside down. Someone touches us in some magical way that sends logic out the window, and then we better hope we are in good hands …

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UNHAPPY IS EASY

Happy Monday! Unhappy is Easy reminds me of a quote: Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable. (Sydney J. Harris). So, risk = maybe happy versus no risk = unhappy should always result in a "choose the risk" decision, because even if there is regret it is much better to have regret for things we did, CM, Victoria, BC


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