My life has been blessed by kindnesses of far more people being far better to me than I have often been to them – for which I am grateful.
I was asked ‘what’s changed?’ for me lately. Aside from the obvious tasks, sadness and adjustments following my dad’s death, there are changes. I don’t know what will linger, but for now I’m seeing life and its finality more vividly than ever, appreciating how swiftly vitality at any speed is reduced to zero, full-stop, THE END. I know, that’s what death is, but there is more to it right now for me. Calling it incalculable is an avoidance cop-out. I’m not sure I’m ready to share all the feelings yet, but be assured there are many more than I expected.
Like life, to be continued …
column written/ published from Calgary
morning walk: -8C/ 18F, temperature rising – spring is so so so close – more light fluffy snow, fresh rabbit tracks for Gusta’s nose to chase.
So sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad. I have been out of town and not in touch with regular day to day but wanted to send my regrets. As my parents get older I realize that the best gift I can give them is time and since they live so far away those visits are not as often as I wish. However, when I do visit it is the “essence of the time together” that makes those days, hours and minutes special. They may repeat stories several times and each time the details are different or they could speak of an incident long ago that is as clear as the sun on a bright day. Regardless, it is in those moments where we have chosen to be totally with them in mind and body - ready to help, willing to listen, able to care and always to love, that we appreciate them for everything they have been to us and what a remarkable gift they are. Through the many stories and reflections you have shared with us over the years about you and your Dad, it is clear - that “essence of time” was shared by you and your father and that “gift” will live in your heart as you continue your journey of life. United in spirit, RB, Calgary, AB
Re: Uncle Hubert … Hi Mark. So sorry to hear about your loss . I will miss our annual Christmas time telephone visits. Marg's uncle Bill who lived a few doors from your Father sent me the Obituary, WN, Kelowna, BC