CHOOSE YOUR LIFE; happy or not, it is always your choice
Tuesday, Nov. 26, 2019
What we want (or what we say out loud anyway) and what we are prepared to do about it is a strange piece of human behavior.
Simple examples we can all relate to involve diet, fitness, saving, returning phone calls – we all say the right things. But our actions so often fall short or represent opposite behaviors.
Why is that?
I wonder.
I question myself about strategies, and I list to/read the wisdom of others in search of new ways to make better progress, in search of deeper understanding of why?
Life seems to have more meaning some days, better than others – or worse, but that’s a silly mind-game we play. Life is either happy, or not. If happy, keep enjoying and deepening seems to be a great strategy.
If not happy, change.
If not happy, do something about it.
If not happy, use the energy to make someone else happy.
The more time and energy we spend making other people happy, we are more likely to make ourselves happier in the process. It might feel accidental, but it is no accident.
But it is always our choice, to live our live on-accident, or on purpose!
Reader feedback:
Yes, and.....
The ultimate weapon?, GB, Waukesha, WI
Hello Mark, I learnt to clap with one hand, after giving a speech titled along the lines that you can't. But I know it's doable with knowhow, speed and determination. It's the same with fighting solo. Infact we do it all the time! The battle of the mind must be fought first before all other battles can be won. Funny, you received two pointers to the Preacher. He continues with, What do workers gain from their toil? " What did you gain in 17 years ? Self-improvement, friendships and self-actualization? These are the spoils that remain. Enjoy!, PW, Calgary, AB
Hard to know what to say to you, not knowing what the issue was, but ultimatums are never the solution (a quid pro quo). It is always sad when you have to discover through such an event who your real friends are but lovely to discover others who you didn't realize would support you. Enjoy that realization and the stings will eventually be soothed. We all make mistakes and we are our worst critic so others don't need to gang up and punish us for things that shouldn't have been expressed. Take heart, CG, Cobourg, ON
Powerful Musing Mark. I really enjoyed reading it over and over. Your recent experience reminds me of a couple of quotes I have read over time about friendship. ‘You can always tell your real friends: when you’ve made a fool of yourself they don’t feel you’ve done a permanent job’; ‘Good friends don’t let you do stupid things….alone’; ‘If you have a few of friends who accompany you through the ups and especially the downs of life, you can count yourself a very fortunate person. Even more so, when there are a few true friends in your life, it’s incredibly important to celebrate these important friendships every now and then. At the same time, it’s important to let your friends know how important they are to you. Keep them close!’; ‘Life’s truest happiness is found in the friendships we make along the way.’ ; Here is one I particularly like: ‘Here’s to nights we’ll never remember with friends we’ll never forget.’ You quite drinking years ago so it does not have the same meaning for you as it does to me. ~ Your friends stepped up and supported you – there is happiness in that. Take care, Mark, RT, White Rock, BC … PS.I also reveled in the Reader Feedback from DM, Okotoks AB/Mexico. Well written and excellent advice ‘Sail on into the sunset’
It reads like it was pretty significant ... bound to happen when you are strong, willful, and smart, AG, Cancun, Mex.
