Blank slate. Every day. Freedom, creatively painting pictures, advocating for those ideas. To love and be loved, to lift others up when I can, to give value to my interactions with the world, with others. Smile more, love more, laugh more.
What life do you want?
Everyone deserves knowing their own answer.
I find myself surprised – sometimes aghast – I see people following someone else’s path, going where their community says they should go, following proper ways, or adopting whatever deigned viewpoint hold. Without thinking, without point of view they’ve thought through or believe themselves – just following along. Herded. Like sheep.
Baahh – this sheep doesn’t flock. Doesn’t herd, haven’t you heard?
We aren’t blazing trails to new frontiers like we did in 20’s, not athletic toned teenager physiques – but why can’t our brain go boldly where explorers go, why can’t we cut through dullness like hot knives do soft butter?
We can cut through krapola better than ever, see though nonsense and hold a vision of what the future looks like – we see it through a better lens, through a more knowledgeable albeit less tolerant world, we see future – knowing it might not look like anything we imagined.
What then – adjust our view, our understanding, or do we look in some other direction hoping to see what we want to see?
Life. Right ahead. Look up, look forward. Never look back. Don’t see what might have been – see things as they are. Deal with that. Live with that. Love that. Give to that. Receive from that. No better view. Hold hands. Take someone with you. Never look back.
Being a career counsellor, I love the analogy of self-discovery to the description of a job. It is true, as you point out, that we are always trying to figure others out when all we need to do is to figure ourselves out. We are responsible for our own reaction to what others do and say, CG, Toronto, ON
For a different take on today’s Musings, I just attended a leadership conference where we went through a number of listening exercises. While I have done this sort of thing before, their approach was a little different. The exercises really got people to truly listen to and hear the other person’s issues. A key difference in their approach: problem solving was not allowed! We could only ask questions in order to deepen our understanding. It worked well. While it is hard to resist the urge to jump in and “fix” things, knowing that isn’t an option actually frees up a lot of brain power for listening and understanding, because you’re not thinking about solutions. Cheers, DAB, Edmonton, AB
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